The Slow Painful Death Of Integrity & How To Live A Better Life (VIDEO)

by | Aug 4, 2022

The Slow Painful Death Of Integrity & How To Live A Better Life (VIDEO)

In this video, let’s look at how there’s been a slow painful death of integrity in our world, and ways in which you can learn how to live a better life. Living a better life is connected to integrity, and I’ll explain more about that. 

Let me ask you something, what would you do if you found $50 in a wallet at the park, and no one was around? 

Would that change if it was $1,000? How about $10,000?

In an experiment conducted by Readers Digest (you can view that here), only 47% of the wallets containing $50 would be returned to the rightful owners. That’s less than half! To me, it seems shocking how little integrity some people have these days, and it truly seems to be a lost art. Or, better yet, a lost wallet…

Maybe the constant craving for more money in people’s lives drives behaviors like this. And, due to this societal negative belief structure (given that’s where it’s created ultimately), that’s the price we all have to pay as this false thinking means people give up on doing what’s right.

Or maybe I just come from a time when a handshake actually meant something (some generations don’t even have a frame of reference on this saying, which is sad in its own right).  No matter how we break this down, integrity has been dying a slow, painful death, and it sucks. 

I can attest to this firsthand. Having been involved in the real estate industry for many years now, I get to see the blatant lack of integrity some people have when it comes to money daily.   

I can tell you it’s not pretty. Now, this is not to say that every individual out there lacks moral decency, of course. Some of the kindest, most trustworthy people I’ve had the pleasure of getting to know are because I’m in the real estate industry (and I am eternally grateful for them). There is, however, an extraordinary amount of people that seem to have no moral compass whatsoever, which is the part that bothers me the most. 


Some of these people included in that number might hold the door open for someone at the grocery store when they have an audience, and they might even hand a credit card back to the man that dropped it in front of them in line. But, this is all because they know that people are watching and they do the right thing to look good in front of them. But how do things change when the doors are closed, and there isn’t a soul around? 

What would these people do if they found a wallet with cash in it at the park when no one is around, or do they stick to their word and the “handshake” they made with their neighbor, or how do they stay faithful to the vows they took on their wedding day? 

It seems that it’s easy to do the right thing for far too many when reputations are on the line, but behind closed doors, all bets are off, and integrity goes out the window. The true essence of integrity means having an unrelenting commitment to ethical behavior, and it’s important to get clear on what we should expect from ourselves if we truly want to live with integrity.

How does this help us to live a better life? Imagine if trusting everyone was not so seemingly impossible; wouldn’t that change everything?!

The truth is we subconsciously seek integrity in others, and subsequently, we look for it in ourselves. Much of our integrity shows in our actions, but rather it starts with the words we speak. Don Miguel Ruiz writes in the all-time classic book, The Four Agreements

“Be Impeccable With Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.” – Don Miguel Ruiz

If you wrap your head around what Ruiz is saying here, this is how we live better lives! Integrity is ingrained in everything we do, the words we speak, and we say things with truth and authenticity at its core. 

That’s the kind of world I want us all to live in. 

My personal code of ethics includes stuff like honesty, trustworthiness, doing what I say I’m going to do, not intentionally peeing on the floor in the gas station bathroom (but that’s just me),  so what are the morals that you choose to live by, and how do you know if you violate your own code of ethics? 

You can simply ask yourself, will this action make me feel good about myself, and does it align with my code?  Am I doing this for personal gain despite the potential negative outcome? 

Take a moment to think about what your personal code looks like and ask yourself if you’re committed to following it. If you aren’t, then it’s time for an amendment. I mean, even the Constitution of the United States has had to be revised, so there’s nothing wrong with sitting down and writing out who it is that you want to be. Sticking to that plan no matter the circumstances is the empowering part. 

We all must live with our decisions and sleep with our demons at night; in other words, we must accept the consequences of our actions. 

If your words and actions are not consistent with your code of ethics and definition of integrity, then sweet dreams, my friend. I hope you didn’t lose your wallet either because, if so, then you’re in for a long night! 


The true essence of integrity means having an unrelenting commitment to ethical behavior, and it’s important to get clear on what we should expect from ourselves if we truly want to live with integrity. You have to choose to live with integrity and do it for no other reason than you’re just a good person and want to do good to others. 




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