How To Find Your Values and Move Towards Your Destiny

by | Nov 23, 2021

How To Find Your Values and Move Towards Your Destiny

Have you ever felt under-appreciated? 

Taken for granted? 

Felt like you got dealt a shitty hand? 

I think we can all agree that at one point or another, we’ve all felt this way about something. There’s a way out of these types of emotional self-traps, and it starts by understanding your values and then knowing how to find your values. 

An important question, to begin with, is: Where do your values come from?

We’re born with core values but they can get blurred out in our youth, or stamped out as we get older. I have a brief recap of a story from my book to share with you that will help demonstrate why it’s important to stop and assess what our core values are no matter what age you are. Because, when we use our core values to drive our decisions, life gets a lot less shitty and doors will show up in places you didn’t think possible. 

In my book, Disasters to Dreams, I tell a story and interview a guy I know named James. He found himself pissed off and working for someone who didn’t appreciate his contribution to the success of the company. Yet, he worked his ass off, met and exceeded goals making the company a lot more money, and when an important opportunity came up for a promotion, he was passed over. 

Know Your Worth

Instead of straying away from his values, he decided right then and there that was not a company he wanted to be a part of anymore. As soon as he stuck that stake into the ground, he jumped into the unknown and started his own business. James had expressed to me, “When I left the gym to work as an independent fitness instructor, it was because that was—and is—my style.

Independence. Freedom. Being my own boss, setting my own hours, and doing my own thing is just how I naturally prefer to work. However, I understand that for others, taking such a big step is more difficult to do. Scary, even. Like taking a leap into the unknown.”

He knew his values of freedom and being independent were things he could not compromise any longer, and while it was scary to leap into the unknown, by choosing a new path he would change the trajectory of his life for the better. His income shot through the roof, and the most important part, he didn’t let another person’s evaluation of his values stand in his way of seeing his true worth. It took some years to get there, but the return was more than worth it. 

So, as much as it sucks to have a bad boss and to be underappreciated—or even abused—at work, it just so happens that it’s the kick in the pants we needed. These kinds of swift kicks in the ass push us towards our true destiny. 

Would James have ever branched out on his own if he hadn’t been overlooked for a promotion? His answer is absolutely not. He thinks that “…the worst thing that could have happened to me would have been to get the promotion that I was looking for because at some point it becomes a lot harder to quit.”

The failure to get the job started the chain of events that would eventually lead James to far greater success than he had ever dreamed of.

I can attest to this because it happened to me, too. Like James, I’ve been able to turn the deep shit that threatened to bury me into good, enriching fertilizer. I’m here to tell you that you can too. It’s time to make sure that know your values in life and business so that you can stake them into the ground and create realistic, reachable goals where you can see exactly what you need to do to get an opportunity started…even if you can’t see the doors waiting for you to open, they’re waiting for you. 

Want to read James’ full interview and story? If so, grab my new book now! 


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