It’s Not a Lie If You Believe It
If you’re going to lie to yourself (and you already do) make sure the lie serves you.
In what could be one of the most profound philosophical statements of modern times, George Castanza of Seinfeld fame said ‘It’s not a lie, if you believe it’. Leave it to a fictional sitcom character to deliver a piece of life advice that just might change the way you think.
The sarcasm of Seinfeld might not be everyone’s cup of coffee, but George Castanza’s famous one liner does beg the question: If we undeniably accept something as truth, even despite evidence to the contrary, is it indeed true for us?
The answer is a resounding—YES.
And we can use the hell out of this fact to create better lives.
Unwittingly, we all have thousands of beliefs, most of which were either given to us by our parents, or learned over time through experience. Many of these beliefs do not serve us however, and worse—they aren’t even true.
For example, you might have the belief that money is hard to come by. (Money doesn’t grow on trees, you know. Sound familiar?)
You heard it so many times as a kid that you accepted it and filed it away in the irrefutable truth box in your brain. There’s only one problem. It’s not a truth, it’s just an opinion. And you know what they say about opinions.
But what if you could replace the belief that ‘money is hard to come by’ with the lie that ‘money comes easily to me’?
One of my all time favorite authors and speakers on the subject, Dr Joe Dispenza, says that “In order for you to change a belief or perception about yourself or your life, you’re going to have to make a decision with such firm intention that the amplitude of energy from that decision is greater than the hardwired programs in your brain and the emotions conditioned in your body”.
In other words, it can be done. What you believe, you receive.
Most people are waiting to see the evidence before changing their belief about something though. They simply react to their environment. And that’s why most people’s lives don’t really change that much. They’re perpetually recreating the same experiences over and over again.
On top of that, we tend to seek out information that supports our beliefs and this tendency even has a name-confirmation bias. So not only are we helping to create the reality we live in with our limiting beliefs, but we’re constantly on the lookout for evidence to support those beliefs.
The feedback loop looks like this: Mary believes that money is hard to come by. As a result, Mary sees evidence that money is hard to come by. The evidence confirms the belief and the dumpster fire of a cycle repeats.
The cycle is appalling and probably feels like watching the same episode of Seinfeld over and over again for the next 40 years. Let’s change the channel and get some new programming started in that brain shall we?
Start replacing negative self-talk and limiting beliefs with something positive, even if it’s a lie. The more you do it, the more you’ll start to believe it. And the more you believe it, the more evidence of it you’ll see. Energy attracts like energy. And once you accept something as truth, it is true—for you.
Adopting new beliefs requires making a firm decision and an ongoing effort to do so, but the feeling of freedom that comes with it – is undeniable.